Women Repeating The Past
Women Repeating The Past
General Manager
B.A.C.U.P. the Future Pty Ltd t/a Executive Coaching Sydney
We live in a business world where repeating the past is a natural art form for at least 90% of women and men. We seem to be wired to a universal brain that won’t let us do anything else. I think it is all related to pleasure and pain, positive and negative, neutral and engaged, gender, fence sitters and biased, active and passive, strength and weakness, interest and disinterest, equality and inequality, education and ignorance, likes and dislikes, zombie and personable, disposition and outlook, dependence and independence etc., just to name a few.
But let’s go a step deeper and look at what causes us to repeat the past without prejudice – not even being mindful that we are repeating it until it comes to pass. We are told that insanity is simply doing the same things over and over and expecting a different result than what we have always had. If we just keep doing what we’ve always done, won’t we just get what we’ve always got? Yes! And it doesn’t matter how passionate or enthusiastic we are, nothing will change. Amazing! No!
I am going to list some of the deeper issues that cause us to repeat past mistakes and perpetuate zombie like prejudices. They are intrinsic until we take steps to have them removed or we put them aside for something far more valuable. Many of you may not like the list that I am going to put up, because some of you use these attributes with great passion, hoping to achieve your goal or motivating desire by these powerful biases. Our soapies and reality TV shows are absolutely full of them and is what the 90% feed off as the voyeurs and emulators of these traits and attributes!
What most don’t realise is they cause us to repeat the negatives of the past with more and more vigour until we are completely blinded by our passion to the fact that “I cannot be moved”, and “it is everyone else’s fault, especially the people who like to control everyone and everything!” So we run around the world of business surrounded by the past singing, “I shall not be I shall not be moved, I shall not be I shall not be moved”, only to find out one day (hopefully), that we have been singing it and marching to our own drumbeat – not the men’s and, and, and, and – dare I say it – the women who think they have to act like men (emphasis on act)! How awful! It is convenient for the men so they let us believe and keep the myth running by our own energy, rhythm of life and biases.
Now the list I am going to put up is extremely important because all of them and I mean all of them, will cause you to generate wrong impressions and very poor understanding making false judgements, wrong choices, very unfortunate and silly decisions, all causing self-harm to your own life purpose and personal business goals regarding abilities, capability, position, power, prestige and wealth.
List One
The following attributes will cause you to make false judgements and wrong choices all the time:
Envy, jealousy, malice, pride, spite, arrogance, greed, superiority, competition, disrespect, hate, inflexible opinions, fear, gender prejudices, dogmatic, controlling, intolerant of gifted people, political, bragging, attention seeking, humiliating others, vilification of others, criticism of others, slander, cowardice, malevolence, avarice, pompous, snobbery, treating others as fools, everyone else is equal, attracted to and use people with slave type mentalities and servant mindsets, want laws and regulations to promote equality via education to keep slaves and servants in their educated places etc.
List Two
The following traits will cause you to make very poor and silly decisions all the time:
Ignorance, infatuation, inferiority, anger, lying, false humility, deception, false opinions, narrow mindedness, prima-donna, boaster, show-off, bitching and backbiting, feigning loyalty, pretence, posing, introverted competitiveness, pettiness, parsimoniousness, stinginess, grovelling, passivity, indecisiveness, timidity, unforgiveness, unreasonable ambition to follow other people’s trends and fashion, low self esteem, treating others as debtors (you owe me something) and cheats, everything is unfair, the equality myth, attracted to controllers and masters, want laws and regulations to make life fairer, level playing fields, and make everyone more equal etc.
What is the answer? How do we change the paradigm?
Future fruits are determined and decided by the seeds we plant today. Everyone loves repeating the past if it is to their advantage – and let me say, there is nothing wrong with repeating the past when it is mutually beneficial to all, where none are put at a disadvantage for doing so and the planet isn’t being systematically destroyed because of it. However, it is your decisions and determination day by day that declares and confirms who you will be and what you will have in the future. You are responsible! No one else! You choose whether to stay weak and vulnerable and at risk, or change to become strong and powerful in defence of yourself minimising risk as you make inroads into the world of business.
It is pointless using a weak solution to deal with a strong opponent on an equal plane. It is neither smart nor clever unless the weak has a strategy, a gift, a talent, a process where the weak one, as an opponent, has that something that can deal with or bring down or overcome the strong one – much like David and Goliath! Think about it! The system David was part of fitted him out by the university standards of his day, in a one step process of equality that equipped him with full armour and a sword to compete in the same way, same terms, as his giant opponent. David was going to use a sword alright, but it wasn’t going to be his own.
Enter “Woman Little” in business, verses “Man Giant” in business. I’ll call her “Davine”. Davine had to now consider her options. Go with the status quo, equality, standard dress and procedures, meet certain death and be fed to the vultures of greed, or draw on a two-step skill learned from a secret mentor and coach no one knew she had.
Her Strategy
Davine put off the armour, laid down the sword, took off the helmet and boots, picked up 5 stones from a bubbling brook with the giant’s third eye in her look.
She ran like the wind as he cussed and he shouted insulted by one small and weak, a feminine gender racing toward him, he’d never read this in his book.
She opened her purse like she’s driving her car, eyes still on that “Man Giant’s head”, and pulled out her slingshot of suede and so used, the prayer from her training is said.
Purse on her shoulder, sling in right hand, her left feels all five of the stones, the one small and round is kissed as she breathes, it comes with my love to you bonehead.
The sling starts to swing as she steadies her pace, she just seems to glide through the air, around and around much faster than sound, the bridge of his nose now in sphere.
The stone leaves the sling as the giant’s sword swings; stone targets the giant’s third eye, it comes in for a landing faster than sight, but wait, it’s a bullseye and turns out his lights.
His arm drops like a rock, his sword falls to the ground, knees buckle as backwards he sways, he then bows to the winner like a tree as it’s felled and he hits the ground hard with his kisser.
Davine runs to the weak one whose supporters have fled and she lifts up his sword with both hands, it’s both sharp and heavy as it falls on his neck and so it severs his head from his torso.
The Two-step Process
The two-step process in this account is; you must know when to use what only you’ve got and you must know when to use what they have! For this you need freedom, not equality. Everything is subject to change, even when it seems impossible. How can millions, all with varying degrees of weaknesses and strengths, enjoy equality or equal rights just because the law says so? Bizarre! The same people want you to believe the moon is made of Coon cheese too, just because it rhymes!
Plus you must never rely on your university training, or any standard or specialised diploma or degree that others can easily get, or your general education that everyone else also has, and you most certainly must not rely on, nor hope for, neither have any desire for equality in business as equality is the fastest way to destroy ambitious and gifted people, female or male, as it can only produce feudalism, socialism, communism, oligarchy, patriarchy and matriarchy, which is the fastest way to return to slavery. You say we don’t live under a dictator! I say we do! The dictator is no longer a specific person – it is specific law. It is specific law that is used by the person we vote for, to uphold the law’s dictatorship and in many instances, and on many occasions it is monetised for profit! The West has learnt a lot from Chairman Mao’s “Little Red Book” and has lifted so much from its pages.
The ideology of equality must be fought on every side if we are to defeat the dominance of modern day “archy’s” and all the “isms” that prove equality doesn’t work and by its very nature, cannot work. Equality, as the terms of engagement in the story above, would have ensured Davine’s destruction. Equality is the myth the strong use over the weak to deceive and/or destroy them whether masculine or feminine. Equality or equal rights will never get you into the boardroom or to be CEO, or MD, a chairperson or to any other executive role as a woman. It is a complete myth. It is freedom that you need – not equality. Freedom to excel above and beyond anyone else ever born in the world! Equality and equal rights can’t let you do that, because then you would be unequal!
Women excelling in business – you bet! It is slowly taking place all over! But it will never happen through equal rights, or equality of the sexes. It will only happen through true and genuine freedom and your very own skills and uniqueness as a person.
Passing laws to make everyone equal or to give everyone equal rights changes nothing. It isn’t anything more than a pacifier (dummy) for babies (the ignorant) to suck on while the experts widen the gap.
Laws cannot fix or stop these kinds of differences; any more than a law stating iron and aluminium are equal can change them. But it sounds and feels good and in all hypotheses portrays iron and aluminium as equal in strength and value! Of course by their nature and substance they will never be, but now the law is passed and the law is more important than reality. How dumb is that!
By the same evaluation and understanding, all of the attributes mentioned in my two lists above, each have their inherent laws of which their outcomes cannot change or be changed once set in motion. They must be stopped completely and exchanged for the attributes that will bring the lasting and right or proper results required and expected, which can only come from unbiased or unpressured and understood decisions.
Without freedom we are all doomed to repeat the past over and over again. The more laws we set in motion, to correct the past, ensures we repeat the problems more rapidly. Why? That is the nature of law. Law is an opposing value used to endeavour to correct or change an existing problem/issue which by nature reinforces the problem/issue. There is nothing wrong with law in many areas where order and social guidance is necessary. However, while we as a society continue to use law as the “shortcut” to correct or fix issues and problems and control people, we are only empowering the problems/issues of the past to rise with more frequent repetition. Outward laws do not change people or protect people’s rights. That’s why the West has more felons in prison than any other group of nations throughout the entire world in all of history. It is people who must be changed inwardly, by their own choice.
What You Can Do
While I can list the empowering replacement changes in the attributes of my two lists above, I think it best to let you complete that exercise yourself, in order to reinforce in your own heart and mind, the central life changing decisions that only you can make which must come from within. This will set you apart from the status quo in real leadership in business and community, as your future will develop by the way you formulate your decisions and plant your future fruit (results) by the choice of seed (character DNA) as you concurrently sow it within yourself and with, or in those around you. Choose your seed wisely and plant it purposefully – your future is far more important than your present enjoyment. Wasted seed today is want tomorrow! It’s your choice.
©Despina M Fergusson